Phenomenological interview as a method expects epistemological continuity. This paper is an attempt to understand the pragmatics of engaging in an interpretive phenomenological interview, deriving from the author’s own experience as a researcher exploring the phenomenon of resilience among widowed Mapila women in a matrilineal community. The philosophical basis of interviewing is laid down as the foundation to the ideas of encountering subjectivities and co-generation of knowledge. The article tries to detail pragmatics of the interview as a method of research, using styles of questions in exploring lived world.